Life

This is a powerful idea by a famous author "the key to learn something new is to get comfortable, being uncomfortable during the process of learning." The fear of failure and judgement is very strong in all of us. In fact fear is one of the most basic and strong emotions of humans. It must have something to do with evolution, where the species that was fearful or terried of something or someone, was able to flee from it and thus sustain its continuity. Ultimately what nature cares for is the survival of its species. But during evolutionary times it was the physical fear of being hurt which has gradually evolved into all our psychological fears of failure, judgement, loss etc.Hence fear literally incapacitates us when it grips us strongly. Now learning something new means, one should be ready to fail, to get ridiculed and sometimes find oneself in really uncomfortable and funny situations. I am recently going through a process where I am learning a new language of computer wit...

  I had thoroughly enjoyed the advertisement made by the company "Jeevansaathi.com", where they depict the bride's father holding a turban and running behind every perspective groom, trying to see if he is the most suitable groom for his daughter. The best part is the questioning eyes of father to daughter when he symbolically places turban on the boy's head. the daughter's anguish is a separate hilarious subject to be discussed elsewhere. Today we are in the process of looking for a suitable groom for our daughter and the sentiments of above mentioned advertisement resonate perfectly with us. When my husband and I married decades ago, it was clear to us that decision of marriage should rest entirely with the perspective bride and groom. The perfect story goes as " The boy meets the girl. They fall in love, their parents( supposedly the society) oppose the union, they both struggle to bring them on board, the loving couple wins,  the marriage happens, and the...

 If I asked this question to someone"what is your biggest pleasure in today's life?", there could be many interesting answers to it. For example your child's smile , your job, the book  you wrote, the post on instagram etc etc. But for me, the answer comes instantly without any doubt. It's " Carrot Halwa in winters and mangoes in summer".  I have never been a foodie in my life. Since childhood, I have managed to adhere to a strict diet of two chappatis per meal, no oily food and rarely junk food( though junk food like pizza and momos were very rare and hardly available in those times.) But as far as my memory goes(till the age of three years) my love for carrot-halwa and mangoes has been eternal. Nowadays winters are at its peak in northern India and I have pleaded with my maid to never let container go dry of Carrot Halwa in refrigerator. As soon as one batch finishes , another is ready beforehand. For me its a joy to have my daily filling of this delic...